Mars and Venus

Some people proclaim that family unity has become fragmented in today’s society by the simple fact that women by the score have become career oriented and the “two working parents” model has become the norm rather than the exception.

Well, there certainly has been a paradigm shift when it comes to the family unit. But can it really be simplified to this one common belief? I’ll give you my take on it (like you could even stop me…)

It is true that more women have entered the work force. Many by choice, but perhaps many more out of simple financial necessity. I don’t agree with the extreme views that women should be “just like” men. Equal in opportunities, in pay, in respect yes…but God made us inherently different—physically and emotionally—and there is just no arguing that point as far as I’m concerned.

What I would like to comment on now is my view on a woman’s place in society. The simple truth is that, yes, there has been a transformation within the family unit due to both parents working. What galls me, though, is the accusing tone of people stating a woman’s place is at home…the old “keep ‘em barefoot and pregnant” mentality. Men have certain innate strengths and characteristics that God has designed for specific purposes. Women, too, have certain innate strengths and characteristics that God has designed for specific purposes. A woman does not relinquish her inborn domestic abilities simply because she tends to a paying job throughout the day. On the contrary, my observances show most women have an uncanny knack for carrying out both functions with stunning proficiency.

God has designed us all to coexist by providing different aptitudes. Male and female aptitudes differ, but are not exclusive. What comes easily and more natural to a man is because of God’s design. The same is true for women. This does not mean, however, there cannot be any cross-over for learning skills in either direction. Women can become physically stronger, develop the “hunter” attitude which men have more instinctually; Men can learn to express emotions and develop the “caretaker” qualities which come so easily to women.

Let me put this all in a more personal context. If we are to only partake in life with our strongest skill sets (e.g. women having a stronger domestic forte, therefore she should stay at home) many of us would not enjoy life as it was meant to be enjoyed. One of my passions is music; specifically writing both lyrics and melody. It’s certainly not my strongest suit…even perhaps way down on the list of skills. Does that mean I should forego pursuing it? Heavens no! I can enjoy incorporating it into my life along with other talents and abilities. This is how a life can become a full life: by utilizing what you are good at and, at the same time, learning new things which touch your heart and bring you joy.

And so it is with everyone in society. Men and women are different, but perfectly compatible by utilizing what they are good at, while at the same time learning new things for domestic reasons, financial reasons, or simply because it brings them joy.

Does God look upon His creation—both Mars and Venus—and smile? I know He does.

Greg Morton
© October 2010

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